If you aren't receiving any messages from members, it could be that the filters you've set are too narrow. Go to your Inbox and you will be told if messages are being filtered and hidden.
To generate some more interest in your profile, try uploading more photos and writing some diary entries. This will show that you're an active member and help other members to get to know you. The same goes for your personal profile. Make sure that your information is up to date and that you've filled in each section, this will increase your chances of success.
Sending a gift or winking at another member lets them know that you're interested and is a good way of breaking the ice. We have lots of new members signing up each day so there are always new members to meet!